Managing your feelings and emotions as a carer can often be a roller coaster of mixed emotions. It is important for your own wellbeing that you acknowledge how you feel, and not to bottle things up.
How to cope with particular feelings
Talking to someone about how you are feeling is often a good starting point for finding ways of coping. Consider talking to a trusted friend, your GP, or local carers services, such as us Newcastle Carers about how you are feeling can help.
Understanding your feelings and where they come from can help you cope with them. The following links provide information about some of the common feelings carers experience:
- Your GP may be able to refer you to a counselling service or refer yourself to Talking Helps Newcastle – a free confidential talking therapy service.
- Newcastle Psychological Services - useful information and tips about stress, anger and sleep problems (amongst other topics).
- Northumberland Tyne and Wear NHS Foundation Trust - number of self-help leaflets on topics such as depression and low mood, and stress.
- Carers UK - The Carers Self-Advocacy Toolkit is a collection of resources produced by Carers Scotland to enable carers to look at different techniques including dealing with anger and anxiety.
- Carers Trust - tips to help tackle feelings of loneliness.
- Blurt - 5 videos which aid understanding of depression.
- Mind - A-Z list of useful factsheets, in particular about dealing with depression, anger, stress and loneliness.
- Alzheimer’s Society - useful factsheet about dealing with guilt and other feelings. Although this was written with carers of people with dementia, it is also very relevant for other carers.
- Macmillan Cancer Support - useful information about some common feelings and emotions that carers experience.
Coping with Christmas
Although Christmas is a wonderful time, for some it can be a time of stress and challenges. This may be especially the case when you are caring for someone.
NIWE eating distress service has published a helpful information sheet "Coping with Christmas" to give tips and guidance on coping during this period. View it here
Managing difficulties in key relationships
Caring can place a big strain on families and your relationships with people around you, leading to feelings of isolation and resentment.
Carers Trust has published an online relationship guide for carers. The guide aims to promote early action (prevention) in relationship support rather than waiting for crisis intervention. It also gives carers information and advice on relationships when caring for someone whether you are caring for an adult or a disabled child. The guide is available online here.
For more information on where to get help and support about caring and relationships:
- Carers UK - tips to help you cope and what to do if your relationships are suffering as a result of your caring role.
- Contact a Family - information about looking after your relationship.
- Relate - counselling, support and information for all relationships.
Also, consider asking your GP for counselling services if the problems are affecting your mental or physical health. Or contact us at Newcastle Carers to find out about our counselling services. Having a better understanding of your emotions may also help you work with other members of the family to resolve any difficulties.
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